Emotional support
A good funeral has room for everyone’s emotions – time for sadness, gratitude, celebration, relief at the cessation of suffering, the calm comfort of a sense of meaning.
Allowing for your feelings
Acknowledging your true feelings as you go through the process can be helpful. In our experience, grief can run the full spectrum of emotions, in any order. In a complex modern world, some aspects of our human experience can be unexpectedly painful.
We won’t rush you and will make an effort to listen to your feelings and adapt our approach to accommodate them.
Grief can be unpredictable, we understand that your needs will change as you go through the process of arranging and holding the funeral. We’ll support wherever we can and will also be sensitive to your need for space.
Helping you process
A death can happen following a long period of effort, or it can come completely unexpectedly. There isn’t a universally understood ‘way of death’ in our culture. Instead, there are lots of options, which can be overwhelming to process at a critical time.
Unfortunately, we often have the experience of feeling somewhat disconnected at funerals, as though we are just going through the motions, missing the opportunity for a transformative experience.
We’ve often seen that as people find out what practical tasks they can do to contribute to a funeral, they become more involved and empowered.
With our compassionate and non-judgmental approach we hope to set the scene for deep healing.
We help filter the options so that they make sense for you, offering the time and space you need to make the right decisions.
Tackling barriers
Everyone doesn’t suddenly get along with each other easily because somebody has died. Often feelings of tension and the more fraught aspects of relationships can come to the surface at challenging times. We will do all we can diplomatically to keep the process smooth and to ensure that everyone gets what they need.
We want the funeral to be considerate of all those attending, and as accessible as possible.
Bringing people together
Increasing amounts of our lives are spent online or working from home. Life events like funerals really do bring people back together in the real world. There’s nothing else like it. We offer each other something to lean on, and kindness and space to allow the emotions and memories to flow.
Social connection can lower anxiety, help us regulate emotions and can lead to higher empathy and self-esteem, and can even improve our immune systems, all at a time when we may be otherwise vulnerable.
We are experienced in bringing people of all backgrounds together to find a sense of common purpose.